When I write for memorial services or funerals I am saddened by the amount of attention given to the birth and death dates of the decedent. We talk about how old or young they were and seem to fixate on the least important things. I like to focus on the highlights of life. I want to advertise strong points and talents and stories that make us smile and cry and remember who they were; how they lived. Did they help a child? Did they feed the hungry? Did they open their home or their heart to someone in need. Look hard. There’s always a good story. Eulogies and obituaries should spotlight all the noteworthy memories between the dash. Put the birth and passing dates on the tombstone and move on to celebrate the life of your loved one.